About Lena Brandt

Who I am

I'm 27, I live in Cologne, and I've been dating in the sugar dating world for four years. It didn't start with a dream of big luxury, but with a very sober problem: two part-time jobs on top of university, and the money still ran out before the month did.

Today I use this blog to write about the side of sugar dating that hardly anyone talks about openly. Not the glossy pictures, but the real questions: How do I say what I expect without selling myself short? How do I spot a scammer before he costs me money? And how do I turn down a man who makes me uncomfortable without feeling guilty?

How it all started

My first date was a disaster because we hadn't talked about anything beforehand. I sat in a hotel bar with no idea what the man expected of me, he had no idea what I had in mind, and we both spent two hours beating around the bush. Afterwards I promised myself: never again without a clear agreement.

That was the turning point. Since then I sort everything out beforehand, in writing, in full sentences. My longest arrangement lasted two and a half years and was the most relaxed relationship I've ever had – precisely because both of us knew where we stood. Back then I wished someone had told me all this in advance. That's why this blog exists.

What you can expect here

Every post comes from my own experience or from conversations with women who shared their stories with me. No sugar-coated promises, no scaremongering – just what you really need to know before you enter an arrangement.

• How to discuss an arrangement before it begins
• Safety rules for the first date and every date after
• Spotting scams before they cost you anything
• Setting boundaries without having to justify them

Let's stay in touch

I'm happy about every message. If you have a question, want to suggest a topic, or simply want to tell me how you're doing – write to me. You can find me on MySugardaddy, where I met most of the people in my life as a sugar baby.